…I have not been thinking about my wedding. Not sure if it was my upbringing or my streak of independence, but I never dreamed about the day I would get married. According to Psychology Today, young wedding planners can be attributed to our generation’s Disney obsession (guilty) [times 2] and our fixations to have our ‘Princess’ moment. Weirdly enough, when I was little I wasn’t playing Princess but was playing pretend that I was working in an office [or school, or whatever I told you we were playing that day] … if that tells you anything about my aspirations (I had fake glasses and everything).
As I got older, however, and I participated in all of my friends’ weddings (while being in a long term relationship at the time), I couldn’t help but think about it more and more. Turns out, it’s not as abnormal as I thought! The average age people start thinking about their weddings is 21 – women around 19 and men around 23 (always late bloomers, those guys). Being that I grew up in the South, that was also about the age my friends started getting married. Talk about always a Bridesmaid…
I hope to one day have a wedding of my own [and so do mom and dad… and me for my outfits] and I have come to realize it’s not all about the outfits and the flowers (even though those are beautiful) but more about the experience of it all.
I am generally a minimalist in life. I am all about quality over quantity – and it is no different when it comes to the thought of my wedding. I know Indian weddings are traditionally these massive events with all of these random aunties and uncles – but I can’t handle it.
I am hoping my parents got it out of their systems with my sister because I’m inviting about 75 people and calling it a day. How awful would it be to not be able to greet everyone at your wedding? No joke – I told my mom I was going to cold call her friends to see if they knew her younger daughter’s name.. and if not they’re getting the axe! [I should have taken this approach]
As we all get older I think we value individual friendships more strongly, and I truly want to be surrounded by only my close friends and family. No random college friends I haven’t talked to in years, no 2nd cousins who forget my name, and definitely no kids [rude, you have a SUPER cute niece and nephew].
This is probably the most important to me. DJ, food & drinks. I hope my wedding is this unbelievably fun time for all of my friends and family to enjoy. When I think back to my friends’ weddings, all of the memories I have are on the dancefloor or at the bar (mainly the bar). So it only makes sense that these are key to making lasting memories. I know it’s a once in a lifetime [hopefully] event that I will never forget and I just want to have the best time.
This means no cheesy line dances, a solid mix of throwbacks and today’s hits, and, of course, the best of Bollywood. I can’t help but think about my signature cocktail either. I’m thinking something light and refreshing – but stiff. Don’t even get me started on the menu… there are too many options there to even guess.
Do you know how much flowers cost? I never knew until my friends’ started getting married. It’s insane. As I don’t have much of a great green thumb myself (I barely know the difference between a weed and a daffodil) so this truly blows my mind.
Say it with me: “destination wedding”. Not only will this edit out any of those ‘on the fence’ guests who don’t want to travel for your wedding, but it also gives you built in decor. Not sure what kind of destination I’m looking for here… Beach? Mountains? European? Medieval Times? [wtf] Whatever it is I need it to be scenic AF.
Finally, [I was wondering if the partner ever made the list here] I realize I can’t marry myself (although I can’t wait for that to become a trend), so I have to find a man. I will say as I think more and more about this, I have to add to my list of criteria that he has to be into planning a wedding or eloping because thinking about all of this is already giving me an anxiety attack. I’m interested to look back on this in the future and see how much my opinions on everything have changed – because I know they will.
Oh and I can’t wait for my sister’s speech! [cue the tears… no really – I’ve practiced this one for a while]. Cheers!